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On Episode 11 we're talking about the book The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin. Learn & Understand which one you are and how to have success embracing your tendency. Sometimes instead of looking at the person, you have to look at their tendency.


The discipline is my freedom.

I can do the things I want to do and the things I don’t want to do.

Your lack of planning is not my emergency.


I’ll соmрlу - іf уоu соnvince me why.

Justification leads to motivation.



You can count on me!

By serving others, I serve myself.

If I have to, I will.


Your not the boss of me, I do things my own way.

It’s easier to ask for forgiveness rather than permission

Freedom is my discipline.

And much more.

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  • The Four Tendencies Resources https://gretchenrubin.com/resources#four-tendencies
  • Quiz Link
  • Better App
    • What is the Better app?The Better app is a place to help you harness the Four Tendencies framework to create a better life.Join us to go deeper into topics related to The Four Tendencies, with access to exclusive conversations, live chats, and the latest thinking.Members have access to private Accountability Groups and Discussion Groups tailored to your specific Tendency, as crafted by Gretchen and her team.If you want to learn even more about the Four Tendencies, you can also check out Gretchen Rubin's new book, The Four Tendencies.


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In this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life.

During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question "How do I respond to expectations?" we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.
More than 600,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change.
The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you've ever thought...
· People can rely on me, but I can't rely on myself.
· How can I help someone to follow good advice?
· People say I ask too many questions.
· How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask—or who keeps telling me what to do?
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative. It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.

The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)  


11: Book Review: Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin 3About The Author

I'm the author of THE HAPPINESS PROJECT, HAPPIER AT HOME, BETTER THAN BEFORE, and my newest book, THE FOUR TENDENCIES, releases September 2017.

I also have a free app where you can connect with others to harness the Four Tendencies to create a better life. Search "Better Gretchen Rubin" in your app store or visit Betterapp.us.

I also have a popular, award-winning podcast, "Happier with Gretchen Rubin" (search in your favorite podcast app) and a blog (GretchenRubin.com), where I write about my daily adventures in happiness and habit-formation.

My previous books include a bestselling biography of Winston Churchill, "Forty Ways to Look at Winston Churchill," and one of John Kennedy, "Forty Ways to Look at JFK." My first book, "Power Money Fame S..: A User's Guide," is social criticism in the guise of a user's manual. "Profane Waste" was a collaboration with artist Dana Hoey. I've also written three dreadful novels that are safely locked away in a drawer.

Before turning to writing, I had a career in law. A graduate of Yale and Yale Law School, I clerked for Justice Sandra Day O'Connor and was editor-in-chief of the Yale Law Journal. I live in New York City with my husband and two daughters.


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Roger Dawson's Secrets of Power Negotiating has changed the way American business thinks about negotiating. Thinking "win-win"--looking for that magical third solution in which everyone wins but nobody loses--can be a naive and ultimately unsuccessful approach in today's tough business environment. Power Negotiating teaches that the way you negotiate can get you everything you want and still convince the other side that they won also.

This third edition has been completely revised and updated to reflect the changing dynamics of business today. New and expanded sections include:
Twenty sure-fire negotiating gambits.
How to negotiate over the telephone, by e-mail, and via instant messaging.
How to read body language.
Listening to hidden meanings in conversation.
Dealing with people from other cultures.
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The Secrets of Power Negotiating: You Can Get Anything You Want by Roger Dawson 

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You can go after the job you want—and get it!

You can take the job you have—and improve it!

You can take any situation—and make it work for you!

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-Six ways to make people like you

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How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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