Discovering The Instruction Manual For Life

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Tyson Gaylord [00:00:05]:
Welcome to the Social Chameleon Show where it's our goal to help you learn, grow, and transform the first one to come. Today, I'm thrilled to introduce you to truly ins uplifting and inspiring guest, Matthias Fiedler. He's on a mission to remind us that life is meant to be fun, an epic adventure filled with curiosity, joy, and wonder. Through his project, messages from life, Matthias shares daily reminders to help snap us out of life's routine and focus on what truly matters. And there's a twist. Matthias has a secret evil plan, to write the most uplifting book in the world. That might sound impossible. However, it's precisely the big, bold dream he encourages in others.

Tyson Gaylord [00:00:44]:
So whether you're on the verge of your own grand adventure or just need a reminder to lighten up and explore the world around you, you're in the right place. Let's dive in and hear more about his joyful mission. Matthias, welcome to the Social Communion Show. I look forward to having you on for such a long time. I love your newsletter, and I can't wait to dig into all the different topics we have here.

Mathias Fiedler [00:01:04]:
So glad to be here. Hey, Tyson. Thanks for having me.

Tyson Gaylord [00:01:07]:
Hi, bro. So I was reading, the Rekamundo newsletter, and they had featured your, your, I guess, newsletter or whatever you wanna call it, email thing, messages from life. And I was like, this sounds interesting, so I clicked and checked it out. And I just loved it. I just instantly was hooked, and I was reading through it. I followed you on Instagram. I subscribed to the podcast and everything. I just love these quick little beautiful messages from your perspective as you you're writing this is from life, and I just love that from the universe talking talking in that way.

Tyson Gaylord [00:01:35]:
And I love it, and that's why I wanted to have you on. So my question to start this is, how did you land on that idea of speaking to to us through the universe or however you wanna say that?

Mathias Fiedler [00:01:47]:
Well, because my life was perfect, everything was fine, and that's how I Of course. Yeah. Did you ever have a plan that just didn't pan out?

Tyson Gaylord [00:02:01]:
Yeah. You ever have a plan.

Mathias Fiedler [00:02:02]:
Right? Yeah. Yesterday. Exactly. Right? We have these ideas in our head of how things should unfold, of how things should be. And, well, if you've been around on this planet for more than a day, you know it's just not gonna work out. Stuff is gonna happen. Right? And I was in a situation like that. I had a vision, a clear goal, and it was awesome.

Mathias Fiedler [00:02:32]:
And one day, I realized, yeah, this is not gonna happen. And so everything I worked for and everything I looked forward to, it was, like, gone. And I was like, what do I do? What do I do? I I I've wasted so many years. I don't have a perspective for the future. I I'm an idiot. What did I do? Come on. You ever talk to yourself like that, right? And you have these voices that judge you, and you think you messed up life. I've wasted my life.

Mathias Fiedler [00:03:05]:
And, yeah, that's not a good place to be. And so I was like, okay, I gotta do something. So I hit the alcohol. I thought to myself, okay, you got this. You've not wasted your life. You've learned stuff. You you have a perspective. We're gonna figure this out.

Mathias Fiedler [00:03:25]:
And I talk to myself that way, you know, like calming myself down. It kind of worked, but I kind of wish that someone would just appear and tell me you're gonna be okay. And I was like, if life itself, if the universe said, hey, buddy, you're doing a great job. It's gonna work out. And I thought, well, I could write myself a letter from the universe saying, look. Where you're right now, I know you're scared. You don't know how it's gonna work out, but you're gonna be fine. And there's so much lined up for you.

Mathias Fiedler [00:04:01]:
You've not wasted your time. You've everything up until this moment has led you to where you're gonna be, to where you're gonna go. Because if when I told it to myself, I was like, I'm just lying to myself. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:04:15]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:04:16]:
I felt if I had this letter, the universe talking to me, that would feel really good, and it did. I I just calmed down. It felt soothing, And I thought, I cannot be the only person on this planet that had a plan go wrong, that could use some encouragement. And so I started sharing this with other people. That's how messages from life was born. It's your little reminder from life that you're okay, that life is not as bad as your mind makes it out to be, that life is not this series of problems, one thing after another, but it's a beautiful adventure to be enjoyed.

Tyson Gaylord [00:05:03]:
When when this goal and whatnot didn't happen, what was what was that like? What's that self talk like? You know? Did you did you is it kinda happen all of a sudden, or did you kinda lack maybe for lack of a better term, you just kinda give up? Or how how did that work out?

Mathias Fiedler [00:05:22]:
Mild panic attack. Massive. I was like, Jesus Christ. You know? In that moment, you can't think clearly. And you have all these voices in your head telling you, you messed up. You're on the wrong path. Why did you do that? How could you have been that stupid? And if you believe those voices, you're in for a bad time. It's not fun.

Mathias Fiedler [00:05:56]:
Right? And and one of the great things in life, probably one of the greatest that you will ever learn is to realize there are lots of people in your head living rent free. These voices that you hear, that's not you. And if how does the voice in your head know where you're supposed to be or how it's gonna turn out? The dude has no idea. I always say it's the same guy that keeps checking the fridge if something magically appeared. It it's ridiculous. He doesn't know. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:06:35]:
Yes.

Mathias Fiedler [00:06:36]:
It's it's this tiny little version of the world. This and you apply it to all of life, and you're like, oh, I'm screwed. I how do you know? You have no idea. It's like but if you believe those voices, that's very real to you. Yeah. No matter how ridiculous it is. And that's one of the hardest things in life because you're kind of imprisoned by your own thoughts, but you don't know that. It feels comfortable.

Mathias Fiedler [00:07:11]:
It feels like home. It's it's right up there. It's the voices in your head. How could they lie to me? Must be true. I hear it all the time. And if you tell someone, yeah, it's in your head or they're just gonna smack you in the face. Right. They can't hear you.

Mathias Fiedler [00:07:28]:
If someone told me, Hey, look, calm down. It's not as bad as you think it is. It's just in your head. Like you strangle the person. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:07:37]:
Right. Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:07:39]:
But, unfortunately, it is true. Well, fortunately, it's true, actually, because if everything that we thought was true, yeah, that that that'd be that'd be terrible because a lot of stuff we think is just complete nonsense. Mhmm. And it's a story. But if you don't know it's a story, then you think, well, this this is how life is. This is who I am. And then you spend your whole life wrestling with that and fixing it, never knowing it was just a story. Mhmm.

Tyson Gaylord [00:08:19]:
I think that's a huge unlock. I think, you're onto something with that. I think we don't realize that these things in our head are just stories. They're just beliefs, and 99% of the time, they're from somebody else. Well meaning, mostly. Your parent or your grandparent, whoever was well meaning in telling you these stories that become your beliefs, and now you have this self talk. And and it's interesting. I've heard, you know, through all the guests I've talked to and people I've talked to and things I've read.

Tyson Gaylord [00:08:43]:
Sometimes people self talk is I cannot believe what people tell themselves. But like you're saying, it's just chatter in your head.

Mathias Fiedler [00:08:51]:
Oh, yeah. But it's reality in your life if you believe it.

Tyson Gaylord [00:08:57]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:08:58]:
And that's the thing we talked earlier. Well meaning people, you land on planet Earth. You have no idea what to do. You are not given an instruction manual. You have no idea. You just show up here one day, and you have to figure it out. And then there are, as you said, well meaning people trying to help you. Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:09:21]:
And they tell you to the best of their knowledge what to do. Mhmm. And I think this is where the blind leading the blind comes from because that's why we're sitting here probably because the stuff we've been told is just not very accurate. Mhmm. And we don't know that. And I always think we grow up, but our mind doesn't. Let me give you an example. You still run around with the same childish ideas you had when you were a kid.

Mathias Fiedler [00:09:52]:
Your mom told you, well, you have to greet people. People have to greet each other. If not, they're they're unfriendly there. And now God knows how many decades later, you walk across the street, and your neighbor doesn't greet you. And you're like, fuck. What? Guy is what an asshole. And and you get upset. And and why? Because you have an idea in your head of how that person should act.

Mathias Fiedler [00:10:16]:
Mhmm. Now how do you know how that person should act? You have no idea. You think you do because you were told when you were a kid, But you don't know what the guy how should he act? The way he acts, because that's how he's acting. You don't know what's going on. He could be busy. He could be thinking about something else. He could be lost in thought, something. God knows what you have no idea.

Mathias Fiedler [00:10:42]:
Right. You get upset. Or more accurately, you upset yourself.

Tyson Gaylord [00:10:47]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:10:48]:
And why do you upset yourself? Because the voice in your head is telling you that person should act that way. You think that you believe that.

Tyson Gaylord [00:10:57]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:10:58]:
But, really, it's not your thought. The thought was given to you when you were a kid, and you carry it with you till today because we never examine it.

Tyson Gaylord [00:11:08]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:11:09]:
Now that is something as harmless as as the neighbor not greeting you, but that's everything. The person cutting you off in traffic, a client, a boss, your spouse, the government, everything that upsets you, everything that your blood is just boiling and it's terrible and it's you're believing something that somewhere along the line you've been told, somewhere along your path on planet Earth, someone told you this is how it should be. Mhmm. And and then it clashes with reality.

Tyson Gaylord [00:11:49]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:11:50]:
Reality usually wins out because it's the way it is. Mhmm. Whereas we run around all anxious and nervous and upset, and we think it's the situation, but it's because what you believe about the situation.

Tyson Gaylord [00:12:06]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:12:07]:
You carry it with you, and you don't even know what you carry with you. You we have no idea. All the stuff we carry with ourselves, we'd be surprised. And most of it, if you look at it, it's so ridiculous and childish. That's why I say your mind is still a child. Never grew up. We've grown older. We've we've we've, we're we're out of our diapers.

Mathias Fiedler [00:12:33]:
We're walking around. We're we've grown older. Yeah. But we carry stuff with us and especially about ourselves. You know? All these ideas of I'm not good enough. I'm not loved. I don't belong here. I'm not capable.

Mathias Fiedler [00:12:55]:
And isn't it funny? I always think that's really funny. We we we live in completely different parts of the world. We speak different languages, and we carry the same stuff with us because I can't be the only one believing this. Right? You've heard some of this.

Tyson Gaylord [00:13:11]:
A % rings true with me. And we're here in America, and you're over, in Austria. So, yes, same things.

Mathias Fiedler [00:13:17]:
And and how did that happen? Isn't that funny?

Tyson Gaylord [00:13:20]:
Yeah.

Mathias Fiedler [00:13:22]:
And everyone you meet in your life has some version of that. Mhmm. People you've never met, people it could be in Africa, it could be in Asia, it could be all over the world, all different ages, and all of them have very similar thoughts, which leads me to believe maybe these thoughts don't really belong to me. They're not mine. I've been carrying them with me. I've housed I've housed them rent free in my head. Right? And that's why I say it's a prison. It's very hard to escape because it feels very familiar, doesn't it? Yes.

Mathias Fiedler [00:14:05]:
Because this voice has been talking to you for quite some time, and he probably sounds like you. Right? Sounds very convincing. Right. Yes. Yes. And and you know what? My voice sounds like me. Sounds, very sexy Austrian accent. Very charming guy living up there.

Mathias Fiedler [00:14:24]:
And it's it's not me, and it's not you. Sounds very convincing, but we just established. We all share the same thoughts, very similar. Maybe they're not all. And we and some of the stuff we know has been given to us, and we find it out later. We're like, that sounds awfully a lot like my mom, that kind of stuff. Then decades later, you discover it, and you're like, weird. Yeah.

Mathias Fiedler [00:14:54]:
Just keep carrying on. Just keep on going with your life, and you have to examine it. You have to look at it. Because if you don't, you're in for a bad time. You're not enjoying your time here on planet Earth.

Tyson Gaylord [00:15:10]:
Yeah. That's I I I don't know how much of that I I was susceptible to. When I was younger, I was I didn't I don't subscribe to a lot of these things, so I think it was a little easier for me. But what I learned, like, I really learned that concept of of not, you know, examining my thoughts and examining these beliefs and stuff. It's a big unlock, I I believe. You know? And I like I said, I think I had a little bit easier time because I I I don't even wanna say rebellious or whatever it was. I'm like, you don't make any sense, so I'm not listening to you, which caused problems for me. But I think when I did fully fully learn that concept, I was like, oh, here it is.

Tyson Gaylord [00:15:44]:
I get it. Like, I'm examining my beliefs, but a lot of people, they won't examine the beliefs, and they just say it and do it. A lot of times, it's just something you say. You don't even understand it. And I think the real I think full unlock for me was when I had my son. And then now I've gotta teach this person. It's, like

Mathias Fiedler [00:16:01]:
Oh, yeah.

Tyson Gaylord [00:16:01]:
Why am I teaching this? Is there a point to this or is it just because I'm repeating something somebody else told me? So I've had to examine that even further. And I also encourage my son, like, if you think I'm crazy, like, tell me. And if I can't explain it to you, then that's on me. Because either I don't understand it, that's why I can't explain it to you, or it's probably something stupid that I just believe that I never examined. And so that has been great because then we we I think he's more evolved than I was because he's has that as well, which does cause problem for him in school because teachers and stuff don't like that when you examine things that they they believe themselves. And and the common thing you get, I'm not sure what you guys have to say over there, but it's just because I said so. And then I always thought, if somebody says because I said so, do not listen to them because they have no idea why they're telling you what they're telling you. So that's I think it's a huge unlock.

Tyson Gaylord [00:16:52]:
It's hard. Like you're saying, it's very hard, and it cuts at yourself. It maybe cuts a little bit of your ego, and you're like, this is a part of me. I've gotta hold on to this. And you start thinking about it. You're like, this is actually probably dumb, or it's irrelevant, or it's old. Like, a a friend of mine, he's, like, had this one this belief about something. I was like, your grandpa taught you that from the depression.

Tyson Gaylord [00:17:12]:
This doesn't exist anymore, but that's this belief that's carried on to our generation. And I I probably could go on forever on that.

Mathias Fiedler [00:17:20]:
Yeah. It's it's like you said, thoughts about a world that doesn't exist any longer or probably didn't even exist back then because who who knows if if any of those thoughts back then were accurate. And it's I don't know your son, obviously, but I can tell you, yes, he's better because It it it's pretty much like iPhones. They come up with a better version every couple of years, and it's the same with humans. Every generation of humans is more evolved. And the easiest way to tell if they are is if the current generation complains about them because it's uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable for them because they push the boundaries. They question beliefs.

Mathias Fiedler [00:18:12]:
They question assumptions. They question society, and that's uncomfortable. But what what is happening with the current generation? I think very much work life balance and why am I working or what's the all of these things with the environment, and it's easy to judge that and say, well, they're lazy. Easy. Because then you're doing the same thing that hundreds of generations of humans have done. Everyone said that the the new generation sucks, and they're terrible, and they're lazy. Complaining about the new generation is easy.

Tyson Gaylord [00:18:46]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:18:47]:
But if they make you uncomfortable, it's because they've evolved a step further, and they've questioned stuff. They they come with less of those assumptions. Mhmm. The longer you live on planet Earth, you don't question that's you go real rigid. And I know my son is gonna be way more evolved than I am, and that's great. That's why it's it's as soon as kids land here on planet Earth, we wanna teach them stuff.

Tyson Gaylord [00:19:18]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:19:19]:
But not to be so eager to teach, and what can you learn from them?

Tyson Gaylord [00:19:25]:
Yes.

Mathias Fiedler [00:19:26]:
And and all of them and what we said about those beliefs, it's it's really easy to see if you have a belief that's that's wrong. Because life is telling us the whole time, it's like you're upset, you're angry, you're annoyed, you're pissed off with the new generation. Mhmm. The economy, the government, you're fearful. Beautiful. That's a wake up call that what you're thinking and believing might not be in harmony with life.

Tyson Gaylord [00:19:58]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:19:59]:
And and that's the key thing, harmony with life. Because we are in tune like, we adapt and we tune ourselves to our boss, to the government, to society, to our parents. We wanna please them. We wanna be good citizens. We wanna fulfill all these roles, so we tune to the external world, to our society, the government, instead of tuning in with life, living in harmony with life. Mhmm. And that is the main because I think it was Krishna Motti who said that I'm butchering the quote, but doesn't matter. Being well adjusted to a sick society it's not a good thing.

Mathias Fiedler [00:20:47]:
Okay. Obviously, I'm fortunate, but it's like we are tuning into society that again, not criticizing society. We're doing the best we can. That's our current stage of how we've evolved so far, and that's good. Right? But if you're just tuning into that and to your parents and to your boss, you're tuning into stuff that isn't right. Instead of listening to the guidance of our own bodies, we we listen to others. Instead of listening to the guidance about our own who could know better about your own life, about your own desires, about your own beliefs than you? But we Google stuff. We ask people around us, what should we do? What's a good career path? What what we we look outside of of ourselves for guidance because we don't trust ourselves.

Mathias Fiedler [00:21:40]:
We've learned that who we are if you can't trust yourself, how do you know? You don't know enough. So we tune to others. We look for security in others. The boss, the government, that's where the security lies because that's how we've been taught. We've tuned to society, to the outside, right, instead of looking for security within ourselves. We're so busy chasing all these things that will we think will make us happy, and we're successful. And our whole definition of success, again, that's a construct that someone else came up with, and we just purchased the whole thing and and made it all. And we spent our whole life chasing something that isn't even we didn't come up with it.

Mathias Fiedler [00:22:29]:
We didn't define it. We didn't even properly think about it most of the time. So everything, our success, our happiness, our guidance, we look to the outside world, and then we're like, I wonder why I feel lost. I'm not happy. That's weird. Isn't that strange? And then again, you're unhappy if you lost. Well, let's Google something. Let's ask someone.

Mathias Fiedler [00:22:56]:
Let's

Tyson Gaylord [00:22:56]:
Let's get on social media, and let's look who's got

Mathias Fiedler [00:22:59]:
the newest thing. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. We we will do everything except look within ourselves. Mhmm. We trust our boss and our government much more than we've ever trusted life. The life that created us, that sustains us.

Mathias Fiedler [00:23:19]:
You're not beating your heart. You're not renewing yourselves. You don't make the sunshine. You do none of that. Not accusing you of laziness. That's the same as in all of us. We Yeah. We are given so many things.

Mathias Fiedler [00:23:34]:
We are sustained. Yet we don't trust. We look for assurance outside of ourselves, and then we get nervous because we start like me, I look for security and for my future outside of myself. I got the thing. It's worked out. I got the plan. It's a sure thing. And it crumbled.

Mathias Fiedler [00:24:00]:
I saw it in front of my eyes crumbling, and I panicked. Why? Because my security, my future, my prosperity was outside of myself. And then if someone moves it, then you get nervous. Right? Mhmm. You get really nervous. Or you get aggressive, which is the same thing. You're it's just a different kind of you're fearful whenever you're angry. Why are we angry when people don't do what we want or when when government policy we don't agree with? Or we get angry because we're fearful.

Mathias Fiedler [00:24:35]:
Why are we fearful? Because we think our happiness, joy, wealth, depends on the things outside ourselves, which is, again, it's a crazy thing to do, but that's how we grow up. Mhmm. We've learned to tune to the outside world instead of looking within ourselves. We've learned to tune into society instead of living in harmony with life. And these wake up calls are beautiful because they remind you to go back to where the real source of it is.

Tyson Gaylord [00:25:17]:
This reminds me of a a stoic quote I love. I I think it's from Epictetus, maybe Seneca, but it talks about once a month. You know? I I'm not I'm not gonna repeat the quote exactly, but the sentiment is,

Mathias Fiedler [00:25:32]:
you know I put the quote as well. No worries.

Tyson Gaylord [00:25:34]:
Yeah. Yeah. But the sentiment is, you know, sleep on the floor, eat scant food. What are you scared of? Is this what you're scared of? Is this what you're fearful in life that you're not gonna have a bed or you're not gonna have a home? Go do it and see, you know, it's not that bad. I can live on beans and rice. I could sleep out in a tent if I had to or whatever it is, sleeping on the floor. Like, if I didn't have a bed anymore, I could sleep on the floor. And that's the sentence.

Tyson Gaylord [00:25:57]:
It's like, what are you scared of? What are you running from? This thing you've made up in your head is just a story. I have to have this giant house. I have to have the greatest car. I must have this prestigious job. I have to have this this degree or whatever it is. So what are you scared of? Examine that every month. And that's something I assume my kids and and I I remember, my daughter, she was like, this is stupid. I will never be so poor.

Tyson Gaylord [00:26:20]:
I only have to eat beans and rice. And then what happens shortly after that? COVID. And I'm like, we can't even get food if we wanted to. So I was like, this exercise wound up being pretty valuable, don't you think? So I I encourage everybody, and I've talked about this on the show before. What are you scared of? Go do that. Go sleep on the floor. Eat beans and rice. Whatever it is you're scared of, go do the opposite.

Tyson Gaylord [00:26:42]:
And and I I think more often than that, you're gonna find out it isn't as bad as you thought it was.

Mathias Fiedler [00:26:48]:
I have a I did that, like, a couple of days ago. I want I always wanted to start, like, a community because I thought it'd be such a great place. You know? I call it like the a little sanctuary where you meditate, you have positivity, you find like minded travelers before you go out into the world. Right? And I thought just a really loving place for people to grow. And my thought was, well, what if no one signs up? What if no no one is interested? And I thought to myself, so what? Then I'll do it on my own. Yeah. Then I'll just have a space for myself to time an excuse to set time aside to meditate, to do stuff. Right? And if one person shows up, two people is a community.

Mathias Fiedler [00:27:36]:
It's a start of something. Great. Yeah. And, again, if I had believed the thought, I would have waited till I'm ready.

Tyson Gaylord [00:27:45]:
Which is never.

Mathias Fiedler [00:27:47]:
Yeah. Exactly. And that came to me. It's readiness is not having your things together. Readiness is trusting that as you walk, as you keep going, everything you need will come to you when you need it because you will never be ready. It's just never gonna how would you have all the stuff that you need? It's not it's like a tree saying, I need all the nutrients for the next couple of years, ten years. Once I've saved them up, then it's time to grow. Right? It's not gonna happen.

Tyson Gaylord [00:28:21]:
It's a great analogy.

Mathias Fiedler [00:28:23]:
I always do that. I put I give trees a human brain. Yeah. Just just think about it. It it it and then you see, I I like doing that because we talked about beliefs, and we've got lots of wacky beliefs in our head. We've noticed. Right? Yes. One of the best way to get rid of them is look at them and and just realize how ridiculous they are.

Mathias Fiedler [00:28:50]:
Laugh at them. And for me, it's I give nature my brain. Okay? And then you have a tree and then type four is later on. You have a tree thinking I'm not good enough. But once I reach a certain height, then I'll be okay. And I'm like, what what sense would that make? It's ludicrous. Or you're gonna oh, I can't do this. I can't do this.

Mathias Fiedler [00:29:17]:
Okay. Fine. Then an apple tree worried about, I don't know how to make apples. How do you grow apples? I've never done that before. Right? Like, you're an apple tree. You should know how to grow apples. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:29:30]:
You know how to do only one thing.

Mathias Fiedler [00:29:32]:
Exactly. It's the thing. And you can apply to an entire forest. Mhmm. You'd have trees competing with each other thinking, oh, god. Look at that. Gossiping. They'd they'd form little clubs or nations.

Mathias Fiedler [00:29:48]:
Right? They'd they'd form government. They'd have war with each other. Right? Mhmm. They'd they'd be anxious because other trees around them are more successful. So they're free psychologists helping them out, tree therapy. Right? It it'd be ridiculous. You'd have a human society and a dysfunctional forest. You wouldn't wanna walk into this forest.

Mathias Fiedler [00:30:15]:
Insane. Right? Just the thought of it. And then you can see how out of harmony with life we are. Give your brain to nature and see what the guy it's it's ridiculous. Apply your thoughts and beliefs to anything in nature, and you will realize how ridiculous it is. And nature is just in harmony with life naturally. We have a choice. We can do other stuff.

Mathias Fiedler [00:30:50]:
And, yeah, and and that's where we usually that's how we wind up where we wind up.

Tyson Gaylord [00:30:56]:
The funny thing about that analogy, I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but under the ground in in a forest when is mycelium. And if a tree needs something, the other trees will send it what it needs.

Mathias Fiedler [00:31:08]:
Yeah. Yeah.

Tyson Gaylord [00:31:08]:
So the tree doesn't have to worry. Everybody in the forest has got your back. No questions asked. No barter. You don't need to send them money. You don't need to do anything. The trees just send you all the nutrients you need. You're sick, the other trees take care of you.

Mathias Fiedler [00:31:21]:
Isn't that beautiful?

Tyson Gaylord [00:31:22]:
So beautiful. I just absolutely love it.

Mathias Fiedler [00:31:24]:
And same

Tyson Gaylord [00:31:25]:
thing with animals. Right? They don't you know, the deer's not walking around thinking, you know, should I be eating this or should I be eating that or maybe I should sustain a little. You know, they just don't and they they eat. And I think, us humans, I think it's the same similar problem we have too. We're so concerned about, you know, oh, eat this and this and this. And I said, but because we ate naturally, I think we would have less problems with those kind of things.

Mathias Fiedler [00:31:45]:
Oh, yeah. I wrote I think this week, I wrote a message from life about that. I was like, we are so worried about food. We drive ourselves crazy about what to put in our body. And then again, you listen to the outside world. A nutritionist has this advice. No. They have a new study saying this.

Mathias Fiedler [00:32:07]:
Read all of this and go crazy.

Tyson Gaylord [00:32:10]:
Yes.

Mathias Fiedler [00:32:11]:
And they contradict each other, and it changes every couple of years. And you're like, you know what? I'm not gonna eat anything. Right? Trust your own body to help you choose. Food is not an enemy. Mhmm. It doesn't bite. You bite it. Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:32:29]:
And and and, again, that's an example of how we look outside of ourselves for guidance.

Tyson Gaylord [00:32:37]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:32:39]:
Trust that your body knows.

Tyson Gaylord [00:32:42]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:32:43]:
But we will run to everyone from your grandma to Google asking.

Tyson Gaylord [00:32:52]:
Yeah. And and then you're and a lot of times, I the way maybe not necessarily I think about it. The way I think we think about it is we hear that message in our head, what we should be doing or what or what what feels good to us and, you know, like you're saying, And we're ignoring it looking for what the outside world is gonna tell us instead.

Mathias Fiedler [00:33:10]:
Yeah. It's it's it's it's insane. Yeah. It is crazy.

Tyson Gaylord [00:33:16]:
But I love having this conversation because I think this is how we grow when we learn and we bring these ideas into other people's heads. Because sometimes when I talk about some people, they're like, you're dumb. Like, that's I I'm I'm I'm always gonna, you know, do whatever the experts say or trust the science or whatever the the new mantra is here and there. And I love having this kind of conversation with we can I hope if you if you're angry at this conversation, like we said earlier, if you're if you're frustrated, if you're yelling at your phone or you're yelling at your whatever, yelling in your car, these guys don't know what I'm talking about? I challenge you to examine that belief because something there is triggering that and making you feel, you know, some kind of way, and I'd like you to examine that belief. Why do you believe that?

Mathias Fiedler [00:33:55]:
Yeah. And that's what emotions are. Mhmm. We are afraid of our emotions because we think that emotions are judgment on us.

Tyson Gaylord [00:34:08]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:34:09]:
But they're guidance for us.

Tyson Gaylord [00:34:12]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:34:13]:
We think feeling a certain emotion makes us not okay. Like, I shouldn't be angry. I shouldn't be jealous. I shouldn't be any of those things. Right? And then we feel bad for having those emotions, and we wanna push them away. We wanna ignore them because we've learned again from a young age, these emotions, good emotions, these emotions are inappropriate. You shouldn't feel them. Right? But they're an invitation to you.

Mathias Fiedler [00:34:47]:
I always say they're messengers from life. They come to you with a message. Mhmm. They knock on the door and say, hey. There's something I need to tell you. But we kind of pretend we're not at home. We we are not gonna listen to you. And it it shows up in the body.

Mathias Fiedler [00:35:08]:
It shows up all around us in our lives. We will listen to everyone except our own emotions, but our emotions are our friends. They are messengers coming to help us. Mhmm. And if we open our heart to our emotions, and they don't hurt.

Tyson Gaylord [00:35:33]:
They don't they

Mathias Fiedler [00:35:34]:
don't come here to say like, just feel them and then ask, hey. What are you trying to tell me? Yeah. You can only do that if if if you work with the emotion, if you're afraid of it, if you get caught up in it, like, it overtakes you. If you are angry, you can't hear the message.

Tyson Gaylord [00:35:54]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:35:56]:
Because you're fighting the anger. You shouldn't be angry, but I'm angry and, and then you get caught up Mhmm. But you can't hear it.

Tyson Gaylord [00:36:05]:
A lot of times too, if you just label the emotion that you're feeling, it'll dissipate that emotion.

Mathias Fiedler [00:36:11]:
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And as I love sports because sports is a beautiful metaphor for life. Mhmm. Everything about sports, it's it's right there. Right? The other benefit's great, but sport is a beautiful metaphor. And, again, I was nervous, which, again, ridiculous.

Mathias Fiedler [00:36:31]:
You're a hobby player, but what are you nervous for? Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:36:34]:
Uh-huh.

Mathias Fiedler [00:36:35]:
And if you fight it, you're just more nervous. As you're busy, you're fighting your opponent and your nervousness, you're playing against two people at the same time. Defeating yourself. Yeah. You're defeating yourself. Right? And I was like, okay. I'm feeling nervous. I just gonna allow myself to be nervous.

Mathias Fiedler [00:36:53]:
I just gonna feel the nervousness. I gonna use it. I gonna allow it to be here. Right now, I'm nervous. That's fine. That's good. And then I played with my nervousness. Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:37:05]:
And that was okay. It was fun. I enjoyed myself because I didn't have to play two people at the same time. I made friends with my emotions, and then I could actually enjoy the game.

Tyson Gaylord [00:37:17]:
Yeah. That's an interesting analogy. I I use sports too to show my son these types of things. He gets in his head, and he defeats himself sometimes.

Mathias Fiedler [00:37:25]:
And

Tyson Gaylord [00:37:25]:
I keep I keep telling him, like, buddy.

Mathias Fiedler [00:37:27]:
Like, like, we do it less.

Tyson Gaylord [00:37:29]:
Right. I was like, you're you're you're I was like, I see you, you know, you may maybe you did something wrong or you didn't make the play or whatever it is or the coach has something to say to you, and I watch you. I see you get in your head, and I see your body language change. And I said, when you we're practicing and we're playing, I see you do the same thing. And we're we're watching sports. I said I see, see this guy? See what happened there? He's in his head now. I said, look at what happens. He's getting penalties.

Tyson Gaylord [00:37:54]:
He got ejected from the game. I said, look at his how his play changed because he got upset or he's mad or whatever. He's in his feelings. He's so emotional. Look what happened. He's destroying his team. I said, watch what happens. I said, this is I want you to see this so you see what it looks like and see how it happens.

Tyson Gaylord [00:38:10]:
It's amazing. I it's funny when you're when you're absolutely the opponent's team, you're like, yeah. Look. This guy's in his head now. It's over. We we got him. We win. Because once you get in somebody's head like that, it's it's hard for them to pull themselves back out.

Mathias Fiedler [00:38:22]:
Yeah. It is. And everything you said, you can of course, sports is part of life, of course, but it's this beautiful metaphor. How often are we in our heads in what could happen, what should happen, or the god, if this happens, I'm done. Mhmm. And we're completely caught up there, and we've lost touch with reality. And we need to come back. What what I always do in in in in sports and in life, I I try to come back to my body, just the physical senses, just feeling my own body, feeling my hands, feeling my legs, my the blood flowing through my body, the energy in my body.

Mathias Fiedler [00:39:06]:
Because you can't be in two places at the same time. You can't over you you can choose, and that allows you to come back. Or a simple breath. Just one breath, a conscious breath. You and you're back with yourself Because it's we talked about animals before. Like, you you you a dog, he sends something. Right? He smells something. Guy goes off.

Mathias Fiedler [00:39:39]:
He's up in the forest rummaging for stuff. You're not gonna find your dog again. You you just and and the same thing. Your your thoughts carry you to all kinds of weird places, and you have no control over it. You're on their leash.

Tyson Gaylord [00:39:55]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:39:56]:
And they take you wherever they wanna take you, and that allows you to come back.

Tyson Gaylord [00:40:03]:
That reminds me of, something Seneca, said. We suffer more in imagination than we do in reality.

Mathias Fiedler [00:40:10]:
Oh, yeah.

Tyson Gaylord [00:40:10]:
And it's so true. I I see people, you know my my wife's skilled to this, and and I know she's working on it. She's like, before her shift starts with you, before she get ready for work, she oh, this is gonna happen today and this is gonna happen today. I was like, you don't know. You're making this up in your head. Before you even leave the house to go

Mathias Fiedler [00:40:24]:
to work, stop like, stop. Yeah. Yeah. And that that that's what we do in life. Yes. Why was I upset about the business not working out the way I wanted it to work out? I had an expectation of how it should be. Why was I upset? Because I imagined a future that isn't there. That was a blank canvas, and I projected my fears and beliefs onto that canvas.

Mathias Fiedler [00:40:57]:
Mhmm. And so you say, I'm afraid of the future. Am I? No. I'm afraid about my thoughts and beliefs about the future because the future is just the Hercival is not here. I don't know what's gonna happen if I'm afraid of the future. I'm scaring myself. Mhmm. Future doesn't scare me.

Mathias Fiedler [00:41:15]:
I I I do that I do that part myself. Right? Yeah. I'm scaring myself.

Tyson Gaylord [00:41:21]:
And that's the thing. I, they say, do you use you, what is it? You, like, live it twice. Like, in once in your imagination and then once in reality. It's like you're you're suffering twice for no reason. Like, just just do it one time.

Mathias Fiedler [00:41:37]:
Yeah. Yeah. And and it'd be fun, like, stats in a video game at the end of your life to see what actually happened, how much you thought was gonna happen. And and and once we realized that that most of the stuff, we are suffering in our own imagination. The whole all the monsters, the tragedies, all the drama is usually in our head. And I like to I like to say that you think in The United States, probably the most popular sport is American football or basketball. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:42:17]:
Yeah. Those yeah. Definitely.

Mathias Fiedler [00:42:19]:
But I feel the most popular sport in every country is having mental arguments in your head with people that are just not there. You're in

Tyson Gaylord [00:42:31]:
a

Mathias Fiedler [00:42:31]:
shower arguing and having a discussion. You're driving. You're having a full blown conversation and and and back and forth, and they will say that. And when they say that, I will say that. And it's like, none of this is here.

Tyson Gaylord [00:42:46]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:42:47]:
And and and people do it enthusiastically. I was a champion at that sport. I'm beaten. And the funny thing is if you win the argument in your head, you lose. You lose your peace of mind. You lose the present moment. You lose your joy. You can't win.

Mathias Fiedler [00:43:06]:
Because even if you win an argument in your head, which is ridiculous enough, you lose everything else, the connection to yourself.

Tyson Gaylord [00:43:17]:
That yes. That's so funny. I'd like to go back to something you were saying earlier, about, you know, letting the the universe kinda give you this message and receive these messages. I have a thought, and I I kinda wanna maybe run through with you. I think there's there's wavelengths and there's stuff that we just can't see. Right? I mean, like, you know, AM ref eight radio and all these different things. I think or I wonder, are are these thoughts and these ideas, are they out there on these wavelengths? We can't see, we can't measure. And everybody it just kinda bumps into our brains.

Tyson Gaylord [00:43:49]:
And and I get one, you get one, and everybody kinda gets one. The the the universe and and Earth is kinda, like, telling us something. Do you kinda see where I'm tracking with that? I'm kinda Yeah. Still working out the thoughts with that. But that's what I'm thinking. I I feel like something's out there, and these things are coming to us. And and we choose to either take them, examine them, or we choose to let them bounce out. What do you think about that?

Mathias Fiedler [00:44:10]:
I I wrote a funny message, like, a couple of days ago where you think you're reading all these different books by different authors, but there's only one author moving all the pens. It looks like there are lots of singers out there. Like if Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran and all, there's only one songwriter, only one singer singing through all people. And people just learn to tap into it. Mhmm. And you notice that you are receiving thoughts. Yeah. And what you're receiving depends on what lay wavelength you're on.

Mathias Fiedler [00:44:54]:
If you feel upset, if you feel down on yourself, you're beating up on yourself, you're gonna receive thoughts that are thoughts about more ways to beat yourself up, more things that could go wrong, more things that are not gonna work out, and more things that are just wrong with your life. So you've been inspired. Probably not the stuff that you wanted to be inspired by. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:45:20]:
Right. That yeah. That's interesting. I I I keep thinking about this. Like, where did these thoughts I know, shoot. What's his name? Steven Pressfield. He talks about the muse.

Mathias Fiedler [00:45:34]:
Oh, yeah.

Tyson Gaylord [00:45:34]:
And and if you if you if you sit with your your your work and you sit with your thing, she'll she'll come to you. And and it'll give you the inspiration. It'll give you the thoughts. It'll give you the book. It'll give you the script. It'll give you the things that you're looking for. But you've got to sit there and allow the muse to come in and, like, you're like we talked about, you know, you gotta listen to these thoughts and not get these thoughts and go, well, let me see what Jan says. Let me see what my mom says.

Mathias Fiedler [00:45:56]:
Yeah. Yeah.

Tyson Gaylord [00:45:56]:
You know? You gotta sit with that muse and and and kinda let that flow. And I feel like this is kinda maybe the same thing we're talking about there.

Mathias Fiedler [00:46:02]:
Yeah. I strongly believe that wisdom doesn't come from the outside. It doesn't you can't find it in a book. Your mom can give you wisdom. It doesn't come with age, and youth doesn't prevent you from having it. Mhmm. Everyone, every person has equal access to wisdom. And if you read something in a book, if you hear something that resonates, it's because you already knew.

Mathias Fiedler [00:46:29]:
That's why it resonated. You you knew that stuff. Then if something that I write resonates, you know it. You know it because it's who you are. It's your nature. Mhmm. You we've just been listening to all other people in society and all stuff outside of ourselves. We've listened to that guidance.

Mathias Fiedler [00:46:49]:
Mhmm. So we've lost it in a fog. We've blurred it out, and then we recognize it again. It's a recognition of something you already know.

Tyson Gaylord [00:47:00]:
Yeah. I I I as you're saying, a a a phrase I heard that reminds me of that is the good shit sticks. So when you hear that stuff, it sticks with you. You get it. You don't have to go back and highlight it and tag it up and put it on a post it because the good shit just sticks.

Mathias Fiedler [00:47:15]:
There there there are stories, for instance, that I've heard decades ago. Mhmm. Once. I've heard them once. They're still with me.

Tyson Gaylord [00:47:25]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:47:26]:
And it's just powerful. And your life shifts. And and and sometimes I receive like, sometimes I have to write messages. Right? Sometimes I do receive messages. And I I I've posted the videos today. One of the most powerful ones, I was tired. I was exhausted.

Tyson Gaylord [00:47:47]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:47:47]:
And I thought to myself, I just gotta lie down. Just gonna rest for a few minutes.

Tyson Gaylord [00:47:52]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:47:53]:
And as I lie down, I hear a voice saying, yes. You're exhausted, but not for the reason that you think you are. And I didn't the words came later, but I felt it. I felt that my body feels everything that I think. If I eat something, my body feels it. If I resist something, my body feels it. And if I'm down on myself, if I reject myself, my body feels it. And our body lets us know.

Mathias Fiedler [00:48:38]:
We're exhausted. We are sick. We don't listen. Then we go to the doctor. It's like, well, help me. But listen to your body. It's you're not gonna do it. You're not and met it.

Mathias Fiedler [00:48:50]:
Like, if you go to the the drugstore, you're not gonna solve the problem. Mhmm. You are tired and exhausted exhausted because you're fighting with life. You're fighting a battle. You're complaining. You're criticizing. You you're complaining about a politician. You're complaining about your boss.

Mathias Fiedler [00:49:12]:
You're you're criticizing yourself, and your body feels all of that. And you cannot push and criticize against anything in the world without harming yourself in the process. Mhmm. And you know this is true. Right. Even if it it doesn't matter if it comes from me. You read it somewhere else. You discover it.

Mathias Fiedler [00:49:35]:
You know it is true. You instinctively know this is true because that is wisdom that is accessible to all of us that is natural to us that we've learned to ignore.

Tyson Gaylord [00:49:51]:
Is there, like, a philosophy or something you pull from to to kinda get get on this wavelength? What, you know, what do you do with that?

Mathias Fiedler [00:49:59]:
That is a good question. I've got all kinds of things that I really resonate with. First, there's the obvious one, nature. You look around at nature or animals, you will see how life unfolds in its natural state. And then you look at yourself and say, am I matching that, or am I going against life? That is a beautiful reminder. That's why we enjoy being in nature because it's our natural state. Big surprise to society. We've built ourselves and all the rules.

Mathias Fiedler [00:50:34]:
That is not our natural state. That's why I enjoy being with animals. It's it's beautiful because a dog doesn't judge himself.

Tyson Gaylord [00:50:46]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:50:48]:
We do that, and we've learned it, but you can see it's not a natural behavior that appears in nature. Right. We we run it all. And if you look at that, that is a beautiful teacher. That's why I I really like, Daoism and and Buddhism because they draw a lot from nature. Mhmm. Because, obviously it's a beautiful teacher. You just have to learn to listen.

Mathias Fiedler [00:51:16]:
There's some other spiritual teachings that I really like, like Eckhart Tolle.

Tyson Gaylord [00:51:20]:
Oh, yeah. He's great.

Mathias Fiedler [00:51:22]:
Yeah. Yeah. That helped me a lot as well. And recently, I've listened to Byron Katie.

Tyson Gaylord [00:51:29]:
You've been probably great. Yeah. And

Mathias Fiedler [00:51:34]:
the crazy thing about all teachings is it is so ridiculously simple. Yeah. When you when you listen to it and when you discover it yourself, you're like, of course. Yeah. How could it have been any other way? It's it's obvious. Mhmm. And then you're like, what was my problem all those years? What what have what was I doing? Right? And it's really we are, like, in a state of hypnosis. We are completely unconscious doing all these beliefs and and and thoughts we carry with ourselves that we haven't examined.

Mathias Fiedler [00:52:10]:
And then one day you wake up from that, and you're like, what the heck was I thinking? Now I'm an investment banker. God. What was I thinking? Right. Right. Yeah. That that's why a lot of things we do in life, we we think we're doing we we're setting goals. Mhmm. Oh, we want to have a certain career, or this will make me happy.

Mathias Fiedler [00:52:31]:
And once I get there, this is the dream. And we're not setting those goals. They're given to us. We think we we write them down. It comes out of our own, but it's not ours. It's it's been given to us. And and we think, but how does your just like we talked about bad stuff happening, how does your mind know this is gonna be a tragedy? How does it know, like, all these imagined sufferings? It's it's made up. Right? Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:53:01]:
It goes the other way as well. How do you know you're gonna be so happy and fulfilled once you get there? How do

Tyson Gaylord [00:53:09]:
you know? Yeah. You just imagine it.

Mathias Fiedler [00:53:12]:
No. It's just your mind is telling you that story. You go there. You're gonna be so happy. You're gonna enjoy this. Right? And your mind doesn't know, and you believe that thought. And you can spend decades doing something that you really don't wanna do, choosing a career path that isn't for you. Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:53:37]:
Spend time impressing people or buying stuff that it's useless and pointless, but you don't know that. You're so caught up in your thoughts because that is the reality. You do that thing, you're gonna be happy. Beautiful house. Yeah.

Tyson Gaylord [00:53:55]:
And then the next thing, well, okay. Well, if I get the bigger house well, okay. Well, I have the house now, but if I had the car you know? And I have the car, but if I have the Rolex

Mathias Fiedler [00:54:05]:
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It

Tyson Gaylord [00:54:06]:
it's and it's funny because if you talk to people that haven't experienced that, they're like, you're crazy. You only think that because you already have that stuff. I don't have that stuff. So when I get it, I'm not gonna be like that. And it's like

Mathias Fiedler [00:54:20]:
You you still have to be used to

Tyson Gaylord [00:54:22]:
I'm like, I thought that too, but Yeah. I'm trying to help you out. Like, just learn from my my mistakes. And but sometimes and it's, like, one of those things in life where sometimes you just gotta learn that lesson or something. I you know? It's tough.

Mathias Fiedler [00:54:36]:
It's it's funny because you can talk to someone and explain this. Right? They can hear the words, but they can't hear you. They can't hear what you're saying. Mhmm. Happened to me. How often then later you discover something is something my wife told me years ago. And now I realized, look. Imagine that.

Mathias Fiedler [00:54:58]:
I said, yeah. I told you that years ago. And I was like, I couldn't hear it back then. I mean, I heard the words Mhmm. But I just wouldn't hear it.

Tyson Gaylord [00:55:05]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:55:06]:
And and that's what we talked about first, this prison, this illusion. You're telling someone you're imprisoned. You're ridiculous. You're being ridiculous. I feel comfortable. It's nice. You can't convince someone. Right? Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:55:21]:
You always have to be aware that the same thing applies to us. We are stuck in stuff that people point out out to us.

Tyson Gaylord [00:55:27]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:55:27]:
Right? And they point it out to us whenever we are angry and upset. It's very easy to tell.

Tyson Gaylord [00:55:33]:
Oh, yes. Exactly.

Mathias Fiedler [00:55:34]:
Yeah. Did I send this message today? I was like, the world is this beautiful giant classroom, and every day, still there, you go out there, and your teacher

Tyson Gaylord [00:55:45]:
That was the news message. Yeah.

Mathias Fiedler [00:55:46]:
Yeah. Yeah. And you the teachers are the people that upset you, that annoy you, that that you're just angry with them.

Tyson Gaylord [00:55:53]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:55:53]:
And in a real smart move, most people live under the roof, under under the same roof as the teacher. You either married them or your family because they those people really know how to push your buttons.

Tyson Gaylord [00:56:07]:
Oh, yes. They do. Yeah.

Mathias Fiedler [00:56:08]:
Yeah. And you can spend your whole life thinking, why are they like this? And this is terrible, and they should change. Or you say, thank you because you're showing me what nonsense I still believe. You're showing me where I'm still not free, where I still have some growing to do. And then the person that most upsets you, you don't have to tell them, though. Tell them, but you are a great teacher. You've done you've outdone yourself today. You've upset me in a way I didn't believe possible.

Mathias Fiedler [00:56:41]:
I thought I already resolved this, but you were a master teacher, and you've taught me so much. Don't tell them. Right? You don't have to tell them. No need to tell them, but just recognize that. Because, otherwise, we spend our whole lives fighting stuff, our whole life fighting people and situations, and it's always out there. And have you noticed? It never ends.

Tyson Gaylord [00:57:08]:
Mhmm. It doesn't.

Mathias Fiedler [00:57:10]:
It just never ends.

Tyson Gaylord [00:57:12]:
And That's what I tell people. I was like, these people will be here for the rest of

Mathias Fiedler [00:57:17]:
your life. You're gonna run to these other people forever. Always. Yeah. Yeah. And and then life becomes the thing we talked about, one damn thing after another. And does it ever end? And then you're kind of glad you're dead because it's finally over because you're not having a good time on planet Earth. Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:57:36]:
You're not having a good time because you're fighting the world. You think you're fighting the world. You're you're fighting your you're always running up against your own beliefs, your own assumptions, your own unquestioned thoughts, and you're gonna be upset till you decide to look at them, till you decided stuff that happens to you. Because people always I've been accused, I hope you too, of of, saying platitudes.

Tyson Gaylord [00:58:06]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:58:07]:
Right? And of course it's a platitude. The Sermon on the Mount is a platitude. The teachings of the Buddha is a platitude. If you don't understand and live it, it's a complete platitude. And then you give someone the advice or someone gave it to me, and I'm like, you brush it off. I'm like, this is ridiculous. I've heard this before. Right? Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [00:58:29]:
But it is true because the world might be really complicated, but life remains simple. Because the world, we build ourselves. We we we came up with everything around us, all these rules, and and and and we divide people into races, and we have nations, and then you have to fill out this form, and this is the career path. And we invented all of this stuff. We said, well, the world is a complicated place. Yes. Of course it is. But because we made it that complicated.

Mathias Fiedler [00:58:58]:
Life remains simple, beautifully simple. Right? And that's why it's so easy to dismiss a lot of these teachings because we're looking for something more profound or something that life changing information. No. You don't need any of that. You know what you need to know right now. You already know it. You know it.

Tyson Gaylord [00:59:20]:
You just gotta tap into it. And like you're saying earlier, right, you gotta listen to what's with your body.

Mathias Fiedler [00:59:26]:
Yeah. Yeah. Because if you keep on that fight against people and circumstances in the world, one day you're gonna be like me where your body says, I'm tired. I'm exhausted. And if you look outside of you, I didn't sleep enough or I need to change my diet. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [00:59:46]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [00:59:46]:
It might be, but the reason is not outside yourself. It's it's your relationship to life. And if we honestly ask ourselves, what is our relationship to life? And that's the platitude I talked before. Like, everything that happens is happening for you. If you read that, you just wanna want to walk, vomit. Right? Like, I'm on this stupid Instagram quote. Yeah. But it is true.

Mathias Fiedler [01:00:16]:
And you can spend your whole life arguing with people and disappear, or you're gonna accept that everything that happens, every upset, every fear, every is happening to show you where you need to go and where you need to grow. And you can fight it or you can see it as an invitation to become free. You can complain about it or you can say, thank you. Come take a look at what I'm thinking you're believing. And you're gonna fight windmills your entire life if you don't look inside.

Tyson Gaylord [01:00:48]:
Yeah. That reminds me of something. I was watching your recent webinar. We're doing this in December of twenty four. You had the the New Year's, Christmas, and stuff. And, so if you guys are watching this, this is already out. This should be out in January. So go check out this video.

Tyson Gaylord [01:01:02]:
I'll link to it for you guys to watch this. But you said something that are very interesting. I've never heard before, and it really resonated me. I want you to maybe talk about it here and expand a little bit on it. But resolutions are set for us.

Mathias Fiedler [01:01:14]:
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly.

Tyson Gaylord [01:01:16]:
Can you expand on that?

Mathias Fiedler [01:01:17]:
It's similar to the goals that we talked about. Mhmm. Everyone runs around with the same beliefs and thoughts. Everyone thinks they're so unique. Right? But we all carry this feeling of I'm not good enough. There's something missing in my life. I'm not where I'm supposed to be. All the thoughts.

Mathias Fiedler [01:01:37]:
And, funnily enough, everyone is missing something, and everyone is in the wrong place, and everyone is is is not enough. Weird. But weirdly enough, the entire planet, everyone is wrong. Right? Everyone carries it, and everyone thinks it's so unique to them. Right? Mhmm. But these are the thoughts. Like, you were fed as a kid, you were given food, but you were also fed those beliefs. And, again, no judgment.

Mathias Fiedler [01:02:04]:
Everyone did the best they could. Once you see that, you can see the compassion. Like, everyone, your parents, you're doing the you're gonna screw up as a father as well.

Tyson Gaylord [01:02:14]:
Of course.

Mathias Fiedler [01:02:15]:
Yeah. And I'm gonna screw up, but not because with the best intention and with love. We did with the best we could. And we have to realize everyone in our lives, they also did the best they could. That's all they had. They gave you all they had into the best of their ability, but there's no judgment there. Then you can look at other people and see them through those eyes of compassion. But back there is you've been given that belief.

Mathias Fiedler [01:02:45]:
I know I have. I've been given the belief that I'm not good enough. And I took it as my own. I carried it with me. And I believe the thought. What happens if you believe the thought? It it is a reality to you. I am not good enough. Okay? So I'm not good enough.

Mathias Fiedler [01:03:07]:
So I look outside and see, how do I fix myself? How do I become enough? Then you look outside and you see all these shiny things. Oh, look. Money. Oh, that's gonna do it. Look. That beautiful career, that title. Look at that car. Look at that house.

Mathias Fiedler [01:03:23]:
Then you look outside of it, then suddenly your mind tells you, look, this is what we need. If we get this, we're gonna be good enough. Right? And that's what a lot of new year's resolutions are. That's what most of our lives are. We believe the thought. And then we look outside of ourselves and say, how, What can I add to my life? What can I do to be enough? The answer is nothing, of course, because it's just a thought. But you don't know that. And as long as you don't know that, you will keep choosing things that are not for you, and you will pursue them.

Mathias Fiedler [01:04:05]:
That's what New Year's resolutions are. You think you're making the New Year's resolutions. You're not. Your sense of inadequacy, your belief of I'm not good enough, that is setting the resolution for you. That is writing down the goal.

Tyson Gaylord [01:04:23]:
I love that. It's beautiful.

Mathias Fiedler [01:04:27]:
You know, it's beautiful. You know, it's terrifying.

Tyson Gaylord [01:04:30]:
No. But but I think this goes back to, I think, our beginning conversation. That's something that's not examined. So if you're not examining your thoughts, you're thinking, oh, I everybody tells me you have to do New Year's resolutions, and I don't know how it was for you guys in grade school and stuff there. But here, there's assignments. You're forced to come up and use resolutions.

Mathias Fiedler [01:04:48]:
And Oh, really?

Tyson Gaylord [01:04:49]:
Yes. And I'm not saying I'm enlightened in November, but I always just thought in school, like, this is the dumbest thing I've ever heard in my life. I was like, you want me to write these things down now in the December. And then in Nick and then magically in a month, you want me to start them. Yeah. This makes no sense. And I would never do the assignment because it it it was stupid. Now but I now I understand, though.

Tyson Gaylord [01:05:09]:
Not that I'm not I don't have any of these thoughts like you're saying because I'm sure they're somewhere in there. But I it may be just a little less for me where I don't feel like I need to set new user solutions. I mean, I do have goals. I have ambitions and things, you know, I'm I'm working towards, but I I don't have some arbitrary thing where I feel like, you know, if I don't do these, I'm not enough. Or I don't if I don't do this, I'm not worthy. If I don't have the the car or the watch, I'm not worthy. I don't have those feelings. I mean, I'm sure there's something somewhere there, but this it it it's nothing I can detect, you know, personally.

Tyson Gaylord [01:05:41]:
So that's interesting how how you frame that where you're taking these news resolutions and what they're really from what it sounds like, what they really are is they're just a reframe for your inadequacies, and you're just listing them out in a in a goal form. And but this is just what I believe about myself. I'm inadequate. I'm gonna I'm I'm gonna tackle all these inadequacies in 25 of these in in the next year.

Mathias Fiedler [01:06:04]:
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. And we wanna get to a stage where we're okay, where we'll be fixed. Yeah. But we're never gonna get there. We are never going to get to a place where we're okay because we are okay.

Mathias Fiedler [01:06:24]:
But as long as we keep believing the thought, we we'll all something will always feel off. Something will always be missing. You will always feel weird about yourself and and you're not sure, And it seems real to you because you feel it. But similar to what you said before, a different quote I really like is the unexamined life is not worth living.

Tyson Gaylord [01:06:50]:
Exactly.

Mathias Fiedler [01:06:51]:
And and these are all unexpected. Maybe. Yeah. But, again, it all comes from the same source. It doesn't matter who says it.

Tyson Gaylord [01:07:00]:
Yeah. Yeah.

Mathias Fiedler [01:07:01]:
It's the same, and and it's and it's so easy. Like, you look at these words, and everyone who hears those words, like the quote that I just said, everyone understands something completely different. You understand it at your own level. So everyone reading and hearing the quote understands something completely different. And and and for me, it's really this the thing that needs to be examined. Right?

Tyson Gaylord [01:07:28]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [01:07:29]:
These these thoughts and beliefs and assumptions. Because if you don't examine them, they will run your life.

Tyson Gaylord [01:07:39]:
And that's absolutely beautiful. And I think if you guys wanna hear more of this, you got your website, messages from life.com, also the podcast. I'll link to these things for you guys. And then like you were saying, Vanda, in the beginning of the episode, you have the the messages from Life Club starting, in February of twenty five. So if you guys are hearing this, it should be starting soon if you when it comes out, and I'll link to those things for you. Any other places you wanna send people to to to dig deeper into these things, get your your emails and stuff?

Mathias Fiedler [01:08:09]:
No. If you go to messagesfromlife.com and you sign up for the newsletter, I've heard you're greeted with five messages that introduce you to planet Earth. You just landed here. Look. This is how stuff works.

Tyson Gaylord [01:08:20]:
Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [01:08:22]:
And that's all you need. You need those messages. And what you read in those messages is what you already know. You know this stuff. It's just a reminder from yourself to you Mhmm. About what you already know, and you've just forgotten it.

Tyson Gaylord [01:08:41]:
And like Bruce Lee said, you know, I fear the man that practices one kick 10,000 times. We've got to go all these things. You I encourage everybody to reread books because you're never the same person you read the first time. No man steps in this in the same river twice. Right? So we gotta keep and that's what I love about your messages. Yes. They are whatever. Cliches, platitudes, things we already know, but it's great to be reminded of them.

Tyson Gaylord [01:09:02]:
You know? It's just a little quick, a paragraph maybe or so, and it's just a beautiful little message that's a great reminder to practice these 10,000 times until it sticks.

Mathias Fiedler [01:09:13]:
Yeah. And and I still like the format because it's squeezed directly from source. So you're and it I I love this mind because you're reading a book, then you might have critical you feel like life is talking to you. Mhmm. And just, like, for me, it helped me so much where it was, like, it was reassurance. And you feel like you have your I call it the invisible almighty pen pole that keeps writing you and encouraging you. And it helps you internalize it more because it it it comes from from a different source, so to say. If if you should if you play along, it helps you.

Tyson Gaylord [01:09:55]:
Yes. It does. It's like, like, when when somebody tells you something, you don't listen to them, and then somebody else tells you the exact same thing, and suddenly you take their advice. Kind of a similar concept. Right?

Mathias Fiedler [01:10:06]:
Yes. Make sure I tell you what you're saying. Right? Yes. How do I see in trouble?

Tyson Gaylord [01:10:12]:
And then I you do share these on, Twitter, Instagram. You've got the YouTube. You got some extra videos along with the podcast, TikTok, and whatnot. I'll link to all those things for you guys. And then, also, you guys can subscribe to the podcast as well. And then on the social media show, what I like to do is I like to have a weekly challenge. And what I like to do is I like you to issue this week's challenge to the listeners. It could be about anything, we talked about or we didn't talk about.

Mathias Fiedler [01:10:39]:
Oh, awesome. Awesome. I love challenges, like fun games. I did my the classic is the no complaint challenge. I I love that one. But I think because it's New Year, along with the topic, we talked about, that we question our thoughts, that once we have this feeling of, oh, this needs to get done. I'm not happy where I am. I need this.

Mathias Fiedler [01:11:10]:
Then we take a break. We pause. We do a conscious breath, and we question our thoughts because we're always running somewhere. And it's like the dog we we unleash. Like, the dog is dragging us somewhere. Our thoughts are dragging us somewhere. And if we don't question them, we wind up god knows where. And that's why we go into the new year.

Mathias Fiedler [01:11:34]:
It's just unconscious. So in in whenever you have the desire to go somewhere, do something urgently, whenever you have that feeling that of unease, something is missing, stop, take a breath, and question what you're thinking.

Tyson Gaylord [01:12:03]:
That's beautiful. I also find that helps me if if I'm, feeling that, and sometimes I'll grab my phone. And if I do that, I I tell myself, why do I have my phone? And I just put my and I just, like I'm like, I have no idea, and I just put my phone down.

Mathias Fiedler [01:12:17]:
Yeah.

Tyson Gaylord [01:12:17]:
So I think that that can work for that too.

Mathias Fiedler [01:12:20]:
Isn't it crazy? We've we've been we laugh about Pablo's dog and stuff like this, and we're Yeah. Doing our phones up like crazy. I have the same habit where I'm like, why? What am I actually looking for? What what am I doing here? Yeah. It's just it's it's it's it's absolutely nuts. And then we we we think we're, like, so in control of ourselves. Oh, no. Again, this is something it goes back to the same thing. I think This running from something Mhmm.

Mathias Fiedler [01:12:52]:
From wanting to go somewhere, not being okay with where you are. And so the phone is a quick fix. Right. Again, that that's great for the challenge as well. You feel uneasy. What do you do? You grab your phone.

Tyson Gaylord [01:13:05]:
Right.

Mathias Fiedler [01:13:06]:
Take a breath instead. I I will do my own challenge. This sounds good because I just came up with it. This is brilliant. I like it.

Tyson Gaylord [01:13:13]:
Perfect. I'm glad we can inspire you. Thanks. That's perfect. Well, it's been a great, wonderful conversation. Like I said, I I'm a consumer of message from life. I loved it. That's why I reached out.

Tyson Gaylord [01:13:28]:
I I hope you continue to do it. I look forward to them every day. You guys, you know, check these out and continue the conversation with you on your platform. Thank you so much for for coming in here and sharing the wisdom from the universe.

Mathias Fiedler [01:13:42]:
Thank you so much for having me. Thanks a lot.

Tyson Gaylord [01:13:44]:
And the universe has spoken, folks. Matthias was a wonderful guest. I hope you guys learned a ton. I have a ton of notes. It's great. I love his emails. They're great. Is also available on Instagram and whatnot.

Tyson Gaylord [01:13:57]:
However you wanna, check those out. They're great little tidbits. They're fun. They're quips. They're great, uplifting, get you out of the different mindsets and different into better mindsets. I love it. Anyways, is you guys are aware. There's no paywall.

Tyson Gaylord [01:14:13]:
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Tyson Gaylord [01:14:30]:
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